Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Love Styles ... Food For Thought

From Wikipedia:
Love styles are models of how people love, originally developed by John Lee (1973,[1] 1988[2]). He identified six basic love styles—also known as "colors" of love—that people use in their interpersonal relationships:
  • Eros – a passionate physical and emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment; stereotype of romantic love
  • Ludus – a love that is played as a game or sport; conquest; may have multiple partners at once
  • Storge – an affectionate love that slowly develops from friendship, based on similarity (kindred to Philia)
  • Pragma – love that is driven by the head, not the heart; undemonstrative
  • Mania – obsessive love; experience great emotional highs and lows; very possessive and often jealous lovers
  • Agape – selfless altruistic love; spiritual;
Clyde Hendrick and Susan Hendrick of Texas Tech University expanded on this theory in the mid-1980s with their extensive research on what they called "love styles". They have found that men tend to be more ludic, whereas women tend to be storgic and pragmatic. Mania is often the first love style teenagers display. Relationships based on similar love styles were found to last longer. People often look for people with the same love style as themselves for a relationship. These styles are akin to the Greek types of love.


  1. I loved this ; )

  2. I'm Eros all the way baby, and my Piano Man is the same, so you know we gross people out of out never too shy displays of affection.

  3. I think my husband and I are mainly storge now, although it used to be eros and sometimes mania. Oh, those were the days. ;)

  4. Thank you so much for your comment on my blog today! The words and support mean more than you know! Some of these comments, emails and messages are starting to get to me, as much as I try not to let them.


  5. Very interesting post. Hubby and I are a blend of eros, storge and agape.


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